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Grow Up Already!

You know, I have a younger sister who's three years younger then me and we have the exact same difficulties. It's very different because I'm seventeen and she's fourteen but the rivalry is mainly due to her! I wish I could give some helpful advice, but I still haven't figured out how I can get rid of her! Or live with her if I were to compremise.
Perhaps you should, when you can, start a job with regular income and take a loan for an apartment nearby for you and your son/daughter so at least you won't always have to be around your sister, only on special occasions or the odd time where the concentration of her rude behavior is obtainable in small doses.
It's very upsetting to have someone in your family be this rude, careless person and I empathise with you so! Maybe she will grow up, she just needs someone to help her.

[ZoeAllen] 		2008-06-02 09:51:42
Grow Up Already! OMG...
She sounds like a much nicer version of my younger brother.
I truly feel your pain. My brother who is six years younger than I am does similar things to these and worse...much worse. Through the grace of God I still love him and have forgiven him, but I have not forgotten and still see him mistreating my parents. But, my parents will not kick him out. He leaves his plates around the house, curses and yells horribly at my mother and father and tells them what to do all the time, he has physically assaulted my father and my poor father will do nothing about it, and when we had to live there and when I alone had to live there he was verbally and physically abusive (in an angry way)...
I am not writing this to make light of your situation. I have not written about this really anywhere on here yet. In high school, my brother is lucky he did not end up in an institution for making idle threats and lucky he is not in jail for other things he has done. I called home last week, and he was screaming and cursing at my poor mother in the background. It is almost like they are living like a battered wife and taking his bull.
In a way, are your parents doing the same on a different level? I was willing to pay them rent even now because we need a place to go...and it would really help them out...but not with my brother there. I love him from a distance but I am afraid of him. Sorry this is so long, but it really hit home and I really hope your family wakes up and realizes this is not the way to help your sister in the long run. She should have to be even somewhat responsible because it will make her a better person in the long run for it. Too bad your parents couldn't give her an option of working and doing many chores around the house or rent or that she would have to go to college and stay on campus. That would be a good and productive wake up call. Perhaps, she really cannot do anything for herself...but that might be in a really extreme situation and there is no way to tell for sure unless someone finds out now. Does she have any mental challenges may I ask? If you think she does or they think she does there are programs in all states usually that can provide some help. Peace and hope things get easier for you


[HurtingTruth] 		2008-06-02 09:46:27
This New Job Is Insane! I hope that things get better for you at work! Have a Blessed day! Smile[Jeweliet] 2006-11-28 13:56:08
In My Business Again

  I so agree with you about speaking things into our life...Thank you for the wise reminder.

   I'm sorry to hear that Victor ruined such a good vibe.  I thought that you were being very sweet to him and positive about the relationship. What possessed him to talk about death?

   Wishing you the best!,

         Jewel

[Jeweliet] 		2006-10-20 09:53:59
Strictly Entertainment

   You have a beautifulw ay with words..Your writing flows across the page...I wonder if you've had the talk with Dre? 

   Thank you for the note and good wishes!

   Wishing you the best,

         Jewel

[Jeweliet] 		2006-10-17 18:23:32
Strictly Entertainment Thanks for your opinion. I know that she wasn't testing me because we talked about it a fair bit. She said that that's the only way she will quit, and she's not the kind of person to give "tests" or anything like that. She was upset when I told her I wouldn't give her an ultimatum. She called me and we talked a little, but she's not a good talker. We are going to talk when she gets home from work.[missuselessness] 2006-10-17 08:03:34
Getting Fed Up 'Til Full it sounds good that you are living your life and not trying to comply with his. It sucks doing that. Meps by the way is where you go to process into the army. they do your physical and all that. Sounds like you and victor need to work alot of things out, maybe thats why you have such an intrest in dre, no stress when it comes to him [Gothicgodess] 2006-10-09 21:35:15
Getting Fed Up 'Til Full Best wishes with your goals!   [Jeweliet] 2006-10-03 13:17:27
Possible Change Of Heart

As for me well my time is very well scheduled and it cant sway much at all. It sucks at time but I am so used to it from when i was in the army I dont think I could handle life diffrently. It sounds like you and victor really need to sit down and talk. Make sure this is something you both want.

[Gothicgodess] 		2006-10-01 13:56:07
The Agreement That is very brave for you guys to come to that agreement. Some times after numourous afairs I wish i  had the same courage. I am to jealous of a person to allow it. I know alot of couples that do it and well they say it has saved there marriage.GOOD LUCK! I mean the sincerely and more be safe , to include emotionally.  [Gothicgodess] 2006-09-27 18:18:57
Fighting Over Friends Best wishes with your situation. [Jeweliet] 2006-09-27 16:05:45
Playing Phone Tag with a Cold

    I'm glad that your talk with your mom went better than usual...But what she said does seem a bit harsh...But I'm sure that she has your best interest at heart.

    Glad that you had fun at dinner.

  Have a Great day!,

      Jewel

   

[Jeweliet] 		2006-09-25 10:23:06
Sleeping Beauty and the Phone that Wouldn't DIE!

Heart Hugs!  I'm sorry to read that things are so stressful in your marraige.  I pray that they get better!

[Jeweliet] 		2006-09-15 13:37:33
Oh No She Didn't!!!!!! you are right your mom was so out of place,she shouldnot have humilated you like that,l fill so bad,l wanted to cry with you,you are a beautiful person outside as well on the inside,so dont let your mom upset you,you know the kind of person you are,as long as you believe in yourself,you can touch the stars,because l believe in you,take care friend. [binke] 2006-09-14 17:23:21
I'm Baaaaaaack!!!

I hope that things get better for you...I'm sure that they will...Yous eem to have a good and level attitude.

   Wishing you a good night,

           Jewel

[Jeweliet] 		2006-09-13 17:49:39
Meet The Mrs.

  Welcome back...Congrats on your move and your marriage.

  I'm sorry that things are so strained with your family. I pray that they get better.

   Wishing you a Blessed Night,

          Jewel

[Jeweliet] 		2006-09-10 17:00:13
The Latest *ish Hey girl.  Wow.  That would be really cool if you got published- book and/or poems.  Please keep in touch and let me know what you are up to.  Take care![BuffyFan] 2005-06-19 17:55:15
Slowly Crawling Up Hey girl. How are things going? Did you get a new job? Are you still with Victor? Please email me when you can. I am going to stop using MDD when I leave here. Take care of yourself. [BuffyFan] 2005-06-06 19:17:33
The Boss Is Not Your Friend!

I just read your last 6 entries...whoa you are having some bumps in the road with this one huh. Well, he is not treating you right at all. Pushing you and getting mad becuz you wont fool around with him when you can't get any yourself?? What a jerk. He is complaining about you not respecting him ? - he needs a reality check. At first I thought maybe he was depressed and stuff but even if he is, he shouldn't be treating you like that. I think you both need to sit down and tell each other how you feel about each other - positive and negative. Not get mad at each other, just listen and see if you can work it out. And I know you love him, but if he isn't willing to work on himself, and if he continues acting like an ass, just get rid of him. You don't need that. That's not love.

[Brown Sugar] 		2004-11-08 15:23:12
The Boss Is Not Your Friend!

what a bitch!

anyway i commented on 112 i think...i thought it was your latest

and im the anonymous in buffy fan but i dont know if she'll see this

again

damn mdd

[pink cadillac] 		2004-11-07 16:37:29
@!#$%&!@!!!

ive been reading your diary and all i can say is...please don't move in with victor!

youre so right, he will want you to do everything

[pink cadillac] 		2004-11-07 16:36:44
Confusion At Its Best First and foremost, early happy birthday. Second, I'm sorry you lost your friend. If you ever need someone to just listen you could IM me, I'm almost always on-line. Mothers are a pain more than seventy-five percent of the time...s'gonna be all right though. And thirdlyful, an answer. I don't have a major 'cause I'm still in high school. My dominant classes are Bio, Dev Psyche, English, and U.S. history (math sucks.) ML. Feel better. }i{ [Tyria] 2004-10-12 20:50:12
Confusion At Its Best Sorry i forgot to sign my name. - BeautifulFreak123 [BeautifulFreak123] 2004-10-12 07:29:40
Confusion At Its Best I know what its like not getting enough support from each family. My dad wont co-operate with my bfs family and he refuses to have anything to do with my bf so its really hard. I know what ur going through.Much love xxx [Anonymous] 2004-10-12 07:05:38
You Know I Must Have Lost My Mind Hey girl. I hope you are not pregnant. But also, it takes two to make a baby, so if he blames you then that is totally out of line. I hope it works out for you. [BuffyFan] 2004-07-30 04:56:47
Just When Things Were Getting Better... Oh honey, I am sorry, but he shouldn't be acting this way. If he shoves you and treats you badly, then maybe it is for the best that you break up. Maybe a little time apart will make things better, or else you will both find new people. I would not put up with that from any guy. I know, it is easy for someone to say, and when you are in a relationship with someone you love, it is very hard. I'm here if you need to talk. [BuffyFan] 2004-07-28 17:18:38
Things Got A Little Out Of Hand Hey girl. It's good to hear from you. I have been wondering how you have been. I am sorry to hear about you breaking up with Victor, but maybe it is for the best. You don't deserve that. I hope all goes well. [BuffyFan] 2004-07-23 05:00:12
Things Got A Little Out Of Hand aww *hugs* umm hi...im a random stranger...Grr thats mean!!! Thats stupid. HEs stupid. You deserve better!!! [Zee_Zee] 2004-07-23 03:48:50
Too Much Drama Hey girl. I am moving in with Alain. It is a big step and I am a little nervous about it. But I just really need to be out of my current living situation. Hope it works out for you. [BuffyFan] 2004-05-18 09:29:27
N/A Hey girl! I am back. Had a great time, I will write more about it tomorrow. Hope your braces go okay. I had all that stuff a long time ago but now it is worth it because everyone comments on my smile. Anyway, I hope things go well with Victor. Take care. [BuffyFan] 2004-05-13 16:37:31
Something Tells Me It's Time Hey girl. It does sound like you need a break. Then you can see if you really miss him or the sex. And the sex can be taken care of. :) Hope your week goes okay. [BuffyFan] 2004-04-19 09:23:06
There's No Title For This Hey girl. Sorry about the telemarketing job- I am sure it can be tough. I hope you find something else. Good luck with Victor! [BuffyFan] 2004-04-11 18:43:52
IT'S OUR ANNIVERSARY Hey girl. Thanks for the pictures. I think you look nice in them, but much older. Hope all is going well with Victor. [BuffyFan] 2004-03-23 11:11:48
IT'S OUR ANNIVERSARY Happy 1 Month girl! I am surprised you feel it has been shorter than that as I feel like it has been much longer with me and A. (4 months). Anyway, take care, and I hope things improve at home. [BuffyFan] 2004-03-11 03:20:23
SO MUCH BETTER Hey girl. Thanks for the get-well wishes. I am feeling a little better, mainly because I took some extra strength Tylenol. :) But I am glad things are going better for you. take care! [BuffyFan] 2004-03-08 15:52:42
bgcolor=pink>Why Do I Feel Sad?> Hey girl. So sorry you are feeling bad. Do you think you could be sick with something, like depression or anemia? I hope you feel better. [BuffyFan] 2004-03-07 05:58:37
HE MINE ALL MINE! Fights suck eh...at least you guys worked it out. I'm so happy for you, and I'm so glad that everything is going so well for you! Enjoy it! [Brown Sugar] 2004-02-16 15:18:06
HE MINE ALL MINE! Awww! How cute! What kind of puppies? What will you do with them? We bred our golden retriever (4 times) and took one of the puppies. :) [BuffyFan] 2004-02-16 06:31:07
All Of My Thoughts At The Moment Hey! Didn't the guy who was supposed to be executed get a stay of execution? See, your efforts did pay off. :) [BuffyFan] 2004-02-09 13:30:13
All Of My Thoughts At The Moment Hey girl. Sorry to hear you are feeling kinda stuck at the moment. I feel like that sometimes too. But I think that what you are doing is good- get involved with a cause you believe in. As for the man on death row, I think that if there is DNA evidence they should test it now to be sure one way or the other. [BuffyFan] 2004-02-08 06:48:19
What A Day, What A Night! I'm glad you're being responsible and going on birth control! That's awesome that he opened up to you and everything. He really likes you! That would be so embarrassing...stupid neighbours! at least you guys werent naked having sex or anything lol!! [Brown Sugar] 2004-01-28 15:57:32
How Do I Make Him Understand That Love Him? Hey girl. Good talking to you last night. I hope it works out with Victor. Like you said, I think he just needs time. Ghosts of relationships past are hard to get over sometimes. [BuffyFan] 2004-01-26 09:37:50
How Do I Make Him Understand That Love Him? Thats really sad. I feel so bad for him. The best way for you to make him realize it, is to just keep up what you're doing now. By having you there for him and not fucking with his head, he's going to be able to learn to trust you and hopefully you guys will be together. He's already starting to trust you by telling you that story so you're doing all the right things. [Brown Sugar] 2004-01-25 19:50:05
N/A Hey girl. Good luck with school. I hope things work out with Victor. Perhaps he wants to be more than friends with benefits. :) [BuffyFan] 2004-01-22 07:03:47
MINE, MINE, MINE!!!!! Hey girl. Well, who knows, things work out in mysterious ways. I hope it works out for you. Take care. [BuffyFan] 2004-01-07 08:54:42
New Year's Eve (So Many Thoughts In My Head) Happy New Year! And congrats. about Victor. I hope it works out for you guys. And was it his first time ever or just with you? Wow. Anyway, have a good year. [BuffyFan] 2004-01-02 15:21:14
Just Another Day Like Every Other, But It's X-mas Sorry your Christmas wasn't happier. But about Victor, if you really care for him and he doesn't really care for you in the same way, and you don't think you could handle the after-feelings of sleeping with him, then definetely don't! Either wait to develop a relationship with him or cut it off. And definetely don't use sex as "I'll sleep with you only if you say you love me" because then he might just say it to get what he wants. I hope it works out!! Maybe he does really care for you, but doesn't think it is manly or that it is too early to admit it. [BuffyFan] 2003-12-25 20:53:42
GET OUT OF MY WAY!! Hey girl. Well, the only thing I can think of is to meet him outside of your house, but if your parents find out, they will be mad. Anyway, I hope it works out okay and you have good Christmas. [BuffyFan] 2003-12-23 19:48:11
IT'S GETTING BETTER AND BETTER!!! Hey. I am glad you're happy. And I don't think your mom should decide who you can talk to on the phone! You are over 18 now. And 3 hours isn't far away.. my roommates go see their boyfriends (2 hours away) 2 times a week. Take care hun. [BuffyFan] 2003-12-17 08:46:40
This Doesn't Need A Title!!! Hey. Glad things are going well for you with that guy. I hope he doesn't move to Arizona! Take care girl. [BuffyFan] 2003-12-11 15:49:41
What Should I Do Now? Hmm, I think the best thing to do is just get her out of your life. It's kinda like poison in your system, you just have to get it out. Like my ex-friends Kate and Ron, I haven't seen or heard from them in six months. Sometimes I am tempted to read their online diaries, but I know it'll just make me upset again. It can be really hard though because you remember all the good times you had. [BuffyFan] 2003-12-01 07:31:25
More Drama Than a Soap Opera Hey. Thanks for your comment. She Who Must Not be Named is Kate, my evil ex-roommate who made my life miserable last year. :) Anyway, I read your latest poem and liked it. It reminded me for some reason of Elizabeth Barrett Browning's Sonnet XXII. [BuffyFan] 2003-11-29 20:30:53
More Drama Than a Soap Opera damn, sweetie, not good! well i hope things look up for you. [AznMami] 2003-11-28 22:59:42
A Cold Day With Warm Feelings Hey. What was the dream about? Was it romantic/sexual, or was it just something about her, like he was trying to find/reach her and couldn't? Because I have dreams like that sometimes about a certain guy and I always think it is my subconscience (?) telling me they are not the one for me. Hope it goes okay. [BuffyFan] 2003-11-23 07:56:17
A Cold Day With Warm Feelings Hey, Plz check out my diary 'nuki'. well the reason is that i write storys the one im woking on right now is called Changes and its about 3 girl and a lot of other stuff happens in the story( its not a ditaled sex storie for the ppl that read them, but they do have sex in the story but i dont talk about it) thanx if you come and if you dont thanx anways [nuki] 2003-11-22 16:59:02
~*~Poem #7~*~ Hey girl. I liked your poem. Thanks for your comment. Sometimes you fall out of friendship with people. Like me and my ex-roommate Kate. And it can be for the best, you just grow in different ways. Hope it works out. [BuffyFan] 2003-11-22 12:58:30
~*~Poem #7~*~ its really hard to know who your true friends are these days...hope everything works out. [AznMami] 2003-11-22 01:18:52
Broken Friendship Hey. Sorry about your friend. I guess all you can do for her is be there if she comes around. Yes, laughing was probably not the best thing to do, but she should have told her brother about it sooner. I am surprised he didn't figure it out. Hope it works out okay. [BuffyFan] 2003-11-17 08:16:16
Things Are Starting To Look Up im glad things are lookin up. i knew they would. well hope things get even better. sounds like they will. MUAh [AznMami] 2003-11-05 10:47:04
Things Are Starting To Look Up Hey girl. I am glad you got back into your class, but that is kinda low that they make you pay a fee for it. well, I hope it works out with you and your friends. Have a good week. [BuffyFan] 2003-11-05 08:21:56
Walking Home In The Rain Wow. you have a lot going on right now. But I hope that everything works out with the class. And I hope you aren't in danger from the fires. [BuffyFan] 2003-11-03 20:54:50
So many, many things! How can I not be stressed? Happy Birthday! That is so weird. Two of my friends (they are twins) had their birthday on the 30th as well. Anyway, I am glad your house is okay. I am sure that is scary. I hope the school thing gets worked out. [BuffyFan] 2003-11-02 08:50:59
So many, many things! How can I not be stressed? Happy Birthday! the 30th was one of my friends birthdays also. Anyway...things will get better your 19...dont stress so much. everything will work its way out. hope everything gets better...MUAH [AznMami] 2003-11-02 00:14:27
She Breaks My Heart thanks for the welcome. im sorry to hear about your shoulder. hope you feel better. well i just wanted to say thanks. [AznMami] 2003-10-26 13:18:19
She Breaks My Heart That was really sweet. :) Even though you've done things in the past, it doesn't have to show by what you do for one another in the future. A new beginning?... I'm not sure what I'm doing for Halloween yet. I work that night, but I might dress up anyway, just for fun. How about you? [GreenMeanie] 2003-10-25 11:34:31
She Breaks My Heart Are you very blessed to have a mother like her. I hope your shoulder gets better soon too. I have a bad cold also, they're just a pain sometimes. [Micahleena Bright] 2003-10-25 10:28:48
She Breaks My Heart Aw. Your entry made me teary eyed. Mom's are great. I hope your shoulder feels better and have a good weekend. [BuffyFan] 2003-10-25 08:55:16
I Beg Your Pardon!!!!!!!!!!! Aww, I didn't forget about you! :) I've been reading your entries... I just haven't had time to comment on them (Or anyone's for that matter). Sorry. I'm going to try and comment from now on. Just so you know I'm here. LOL [GreenMeanie] 2003-10-24 23:02:14
I Beg Your Pardon!!!!!!!!!!! I agree with Ladybug. You should stay away from him. He should like nothing but bad news. Men like that, I despise so much. Just don't get involved with a guy like this. He's a sleeze sounds to me. [Micahleena Bright] 2003-10-24 08:57:32
I Beg Your Pardon!!!!!!!!!!! This John guy sounds like a man that you should stay away from. The fact that he has a daughter scares me too, men like that give all men a bad name. If you think he is beating his girlfriend you should report it, because chances are if he feels that way about women, then he is abusive. [LadyBug] 2003-10-23 23:14:15
I Beg Your Pardon!!!!!!!!!!! dont feel bad, all guys are assholes; pity this guy, dont let him get you down [acrossthenight] 2003-10-23 23:00:11
It's a Nutty Nutty World that is very sad. I hope they find who did it. [BuffyFan] 2003-10-22 20:35:01
It's a Nutty Nutty World That is sad. This world is sad. Sometimes. [Micahleena Bright] 2003-10-22 20:11:16
One More Time Hey. People do crazy things for love. And hey, as far as not telling your mom, we all need to make our own decisions and own mistakes. That is what being grown up is about. [BuffyFan] 2003-10-16 21:20:03
One More Time hey, life sometimes tests us to the point where we think we can take nomore. Always stay true to yourself and you will never be alone and search your soul and you will find the answers you seek. *sigh* [Wiser] 2003-10-16 20:54:24
Johnny Come Lately thanks for your comment. You have an interesting guy there. I think I would stay away from him- he just sounds like he is no good. Anyway, good luck with everything. [BuffyFan] 2003-10-15 13:26:18
Another Day Around My Way This is a pretty exciting entry compared to mine. I've always had the motto "I bring nothing to the table." [BerwynFats] 2003-10-01 19:11:02
My Poor Mother I hope she feels better! I'll be thinking about the both of you. [BuffyFan] 2003-09-30 18:53:47
I'M TOO THROUGH! I think all women have obsessed over some not-worth-it guy at some point in their lives. I know I have. But in the end, I believe it just makes you realize what you do want from a good man, and that you don't want to accept anything less. I hope it works out for you. [BuffyFan] 2003-09-29 16:28:09
I'M TOO THROUGH! I believe you can get over him, its only a guy, one you care alot about but once you let him go hell relize that he cares about you to. the 1 guy that i loved with all my heart and couldnt be with was also the same one that got my best friend pregnant, but everyday he comes over and tells me how sorry he is and how much he loves me, and thats becuz he didnt think he felt the same about me then when i went out with someone else i begged me to be with him. Sam [inlovewithbobby] 2003-09-29 16:27:59
Here I Go Again. Why, Why, Why? Hey girl. I know exactly how that feels. I feel the same way about Steve. I recommend that you wait for him to make a move- call you, email you, etc. If you seem to be unavailable, it will either make him realize he wants you and needs to make an effort, or you will realize that you are better off without him. [BuffyFan] 2003-09-22 10:09:01
I'm So Taken Hey girl. Boys are way too much trouble. And not good for much either. :) Just kidding. Anyway, I don't know what happened. perhaps they didn't come because of the impending hurricane. Oh well. Hope your classes are going well. [BuffyFan] 2003-09-18 08:42:28
NO! Not a Biology Exam! I agree with the whole more upbeat thing. IT is just too sad to see all that. People should be remembering the good times they had with their lost loved ones not the sad things with how they died. To me, that is like oppening up the old wound. The heart should heel not be ripped back apart with such horrible memories. Take care. [Climbing Rose] 2003-09-14 14:44:16
NO! Not a Biology Exam! Hey. Good luck with your test. Sorry you haven't gotten paid yet. Have a good weekend. [BuffyFan] 2003-09-12 18:03:35
Chain, Chain, Chain. Chain of Fools. Hey! I don't think you're getting old or have lost your sense of humor based upon what this Steven guy did to you. He is just simply being immature. I swear....every guy I know is extremely immature. And yeah...."Steven's" pick up lines need some tweaking. He sounds so lame by the way you were talking about him! He he...but take care of yourself..... :^) [ForeverYours8587] 2003-09-11 20:16:43
Chain, Chain, Chain. Chain of Fools. It's probably not you at all. The guys are just trying too hard to impress you. I don't blame you for walking away. :) [GreenMeanie] 2003-09-09 22:07:03
What Is This!!!? Sorry you haven't gotten paid yet. How much does she owe you? I guess all you can do is not babysit for her again (and tell others not to as well). I don't think I would take it to a small claims court, seems like it would be more trouble than it is worth. Hope you get paid. [BuffyFan] 2003-09-09 08:56:04
Cash, Cash, Cash! I think $10 an hour is definetely reasonable. And if she doesn't give it to you, just don't sit for her again. [BuffyFan] 2003-09-08 09:52:28
He Hung Up On Me! Hey! I just wanted to thank you for welcoming me to M.D.D.; that was very kind of you. I read your latest entry, and I am sorry about the whole incident with your friend. That was really rude that he lashed out at you, and then just hung up! The rudest part of the situation though was your Mom eavesdropping on the other line! Has she ever heard of the word "PRIVACY"? I know how it is to have to hear those long lectures from parents, and similarily to you, when I actually get a word in, I say that I want to be alone, or don't want to talk about things. I wish I could think of a way so you weren't so confined. Your situation is like the opposite of mine. I choose to stay at home while my family encourages me to go out and have fun. The fact is though, is that I have placed myself in my own personal prison that I cannot escape. Anyway, your Mom really shouldn't have any say on what you can and can't do anymore. You are 18 years old, an adult, and should be able to make your own choices. I hope only the best for you, and that the situation between your mom and your friend will soon get better. Sorry I wrote so much, but I could really relate with what you had to say. :^) Take care though.....*ForeverYours8587* [ForeverYours8587] 2003-08-27 21:45:13
He Hung Up On Me! Hey girl. So sorry you are feeling bad. It is tough when you aren't allowed to go out and see friends. I would be really mad if my parents listened in on my conversations. I hope things get better. IM me anytime- megankay4. [BuffyFan] 2003-07-30 21:39:37
When Family Begins To Clash Hey Guys and Gals. It's me the author of Now You Know, and I want to let you know that now you can read about my life when I'm awake and asleep. I've created a new diary in addition to this one. It's called "Now You Know My Dreams", the author name is Peace4Pains REM. Check it out, ENJOY! -Peace [Peace4Pain] 2003-06-25 02:06:46
The Final Straw, and I Do Mean "Final"! Oh god, i know exactly where you are at this very minute. I wish i could go to my friend's house and listen to my music and be in my element. Family's suck. They don't understand a damn thing and they don't try, no matter how much they try to convince others that they do. Go be you and get a job and get money and live like you want to live. Be independent and don't back down from the person you are. I wish i could take my own advice. Good luck. [CorruptBarbie05] 2003-06-10 00:24:33
The Final Straw, and I Do Mean "Final"! So sorry you are feeling bad. I don't think music has anything to do with behavior. But I think there is a point when children and parents need to not live together, because the kid is becoming too independent, wanting to live their own lives, which is a good thing! It is what Nature has intended! For kids to grow up, move out, start their own lives and families, and then the process repeats. And then I think you can appreciate the rest of your family better, and they you. I mean, I'm 23, come home from school holidays (Thanks. and Christmas and several weeks in summertime). After a couple of weeks, I am ready to go back. But I always want to come home again, because I have had time to myself. Not that you have to move across country though. Hope it works out for you. [BuffyFan] 2003-06-09 23:31:16
Just Me and My Dawgs Hey. Sorry you feel down. I think you should definetely try new things, like surfing. As long as you are careful. Have fun at the Indian Restaurant! [BuffyFan] 2003-06-05 10:08:45
This Is Most Unusual Hey. That's too bad he got fired. I would probably watch TV on the night shift too. Oh well. Hope your week is going well. [BuffyFan] 2003-05-29 14:59:07
Over The River And Through The Hoods Hey. I agree- I think the counselor was out of line. It reminds me of the Barbie they had that would say "Math is hard" and how it was discouraging and stuff for little girls. I think you should take whatever you want to take. [BuffyFan] 2003-05-26 16:29:59
The Last Day Of Class, and It Was A Mess Hey. Congrats on being (almost) done! That is a good feeling. I hope all goes well. Are you taking summer classes? Take care. [BuffyFan] 2003-05-21 17:31:00
What...No Moon? I understand how you feel about just being another victim. I too am one. I was molested by my uncle and 2 cousins. And to this day no one in my family knows because somehow it will just be pushed that it was my own fault since I'm percieved as a slut. But that's life. But *huggles* to you for surviving and overcoming that hardship. [Smurfete09] 2003-05-16 14:45:51
What...No Moon? Oh I am so sorry to hear that you suffered thru such a torment.. I understand about the lack of concern from your mum, if you have a spare moment, please read my latest entry, #7 i think.. well the epic one..and you will see just how I really do understand what you mean.. Take Care & Stay Safe :) [noxious] 2003-05-16 09:03:04
What...No Moon? Sorry you had to go through that. Did she know about your story or was she just assuming there would be someone in the class due to the class size and statistic? And does your mom know what happened? Hope you are okay. [BuffyFan] 2003-05-16 07:04:58
What...No Moon? oh im so sorry u had to listen to that. i know how u feel, my youth leader knows my whole life story, andthe other night he was talking about people with problems like mine...and i was scared. but ull be ok! ill pray for u. [sugar_sweet328] 2003-05-16 06:12:39
Mother's Day Shmuthers day Thank you so much for your comments, I hope you are right and that my pain begins to lessen.. xx [noxious] 2003-05-14 04:14:31
Mother's Day Shmuthers day Hey. I don't know where I am moving too, to be honest. I really really wish I did. I most likely will be either going home to Colorado for the summer or doing an internship in D.C. over the summer and coming back here in the fall. Have a good week! [BuffyFan] 2003-05-13 16:28:23
Mother's Day Shmuthers day Did you get your mom anything for Mother's Day? [Smurfete09] 2003-05-12 09:13:58
Let Me Spell It Out For You Thanks for your comment. I am trying not to let it get to me...really...well i will try harder later [PregnantGoth] 2003-05-11 15:37:04
Out Of The Blue Awww... puppy. What kind? Anyway, Frank does sound like a good guy. Every girl needs a guy like that to try to somewhat understand men. (And restore faith in men too perhaps). Hope your weekend is going well. [BuffyFan] 2003-05-03 22:18:50
*~Poem #6 ~* Thanks for the comment in my diary. It was very sweet of you to be so concerned about me at Prom. I know how to be safe. Thanks though!!! Take care. Hope you come again. [TheBachelorette] 2003-05-02 23:53:58
>>----------> POEM # 5 <----------<< That's a really good poem. You have an amazing gift for writing! Take care. [TheBachelorette] 2003-04-30 16:35:50
>>----------> POEM # 5 <----------<< Hey folks! Don't forget to check out page 41 and post your comments there too. I'm really glad you guys like my poems, I'll keep posting them for you. Check out pages 27, 30, 31, and 32 for others. Peace. [Peace4Pain] 2003-04-30 14:48:16
>>----------> POEM # 5 <----------<< Wow, that's amazing and really deep. I love it. [Smurfete09] 2003-04-30 14:32:50
4 Heartbroken Messed Up Days hey, i've answered your question on page three of my diary, you may want to go check it out! If you have more questions ask freely, i'm hard to offend. [Lady Of The Night] 2003-04-28 17:00:41
4 Heartbroken Messed Up Days So sorry it turned out badly. I know how that is when you finally get an email from a guy and you really want to read it but aren't sure if you will like what you read. So you put it off and then it gets too much and you just have to read it. But yeah, it does hurt when a guy doesn't like you like that. That's how I feel about Steve sometimes. But then I am somewhat relieved just to KNOW that it's not gonna work between us. Like, you can finally move on when you know the other relationship isn't gonna happen. Even though it sucks at the time. But I hope you feel better and have a good week. [BuffyFan] 2003-04-28 15:36:43
4-20 Came And I Forgot Myself Again its a good thing u and your mom r doing good. u shuld really appreciate her. i wouldnt know how to becuse my mom left me when i was younger than 3. write back soon. angel4u [angel4u] 2003-04-24 21:02:51
4-20 Came And I Forgot Myself Again hey, i am sorry i didnt write sooner. somthing was wrong ith this site and i couldnt get on. anyways glad things r going well with your mom. rite soon love truthful1 [truthful1] 2003-04-22 20:49:45
4-20 Came And I Forgot Myself Again Hey girl. I never heard that before about 4-20. Well, I hope everything works out the way you want with Robert. And if he doesn't want to commit, then I think you should definetely stick to your guns and tell him no way is he getting you for free. Let me know what happens. [BuffyFan] 2003-04-22 17:33:08
GOD Don't Like Ugly What is AME church? Anyway, it is nice about your parents. And what our parents say/do to us always means a lot, one way or the other. That's just the way parents are made I guess. Hope your week goes well. [BuffyFan] 2003-04-20 21:24:45
GOD Don't Like Ugly Why does he go to church to get money? I agree with you about his name brand clothes and shoes. Heck, even if you buy everything from Wal-Mart (Which isn't a bad thing), you'd be good to go. As long as you're clean, that's all that matters. He shouldn't be allowed to get up and walk around in the middle of church. Is he an older guy or what? [GreenMeanie] 2003-04-20 20:45:56
Me Play Second Best?...I DON'T THINK SO!!! You were TOTALLY right to be pissed off! That's a load of bullshit that your friend ditched you for her guy! I mean, she didn't even plan on seeing him at all, and at the drop of a hat, she turns off her plans w/ you... W/O even saying anything to you about it until you're ready to leave. Bitch. I have a friend just like that, who does that kind of shit all of the time, so I know exactly how you're feeling about it. And I can also see how your mom butting in would be a pain in the ass since she doesn't really know the whole situation. I hope it all works out. And for the love of God - eat. I was bulimic before and trust me - it is NOT good for you. You should read my first entry - it'll explain. It messes you up forever. Take care hun!!!! [TheBachelorette] 2003-04-20 18:48:11
Me Play Second Best?...I DON'T THINK SO!!! thanx for writing back. i am glad u talkd to your mom i am sure it will be over soon keep in touch, hun [truthful1] 2003-04-20 17:05:52
Me Play Second Best?...I DON'T THINK SO!!! I know how that is. It sucks. There really isn't much more to say about it than that. Hmph. Sorry your day was so crappy. Tomorrow is a new day... [GreenMeanie] 2003-04-20 15:41:29
Me Play Second Best?...I DON'T THINK SO!!! Hey. I think I would be upset too. I think it is definetely important to make time for your friends when you have a boyfriend, because that might not last while your friends (usually) will. I hope you have a good Easter. :) [BuffyFan] 2003-04-20 09:00:28
Me Play Second Best?...I DON'T THINK SO!!! Wow sounds like you had a sucky day. My night was pretty bad, too...But they always get better somehow. Sorry to hear she was being that way [See3Meeses] 2003-04-20 04:26:28
Me Play Second Best?...I DON'T THINK SO!!! I know that the pink is kind of pale you guys, so if you just take your mouse and highlight this entry it'll come out dark blue. Peace. [Peace4Pain] 2003-04-20 01:22:52
Me Play Second Best?...I DON'T THINK SO!!! damn. pink. no read.. peach...die...ahhh [Shaun man] 2003-04-20 01:22:05
N/A Cool it WORKED!!!!!! Okay I'll type a real entry now. [Peace4Pain] 2003-04-20 00:23:08
11:56 PM and It's All Good Wow. It seems like you and your aunt are really close. :) That's always good. [GreenMeanie] 2003-04-19 23:32:04
11:56 PM and It's All Good yes, you type that, except the () are <> and there's a semicolon after the color name. You put it in the comment box before you start typing, and if you do it exactly how I showed you, the color pink will show up. Look up a website that has hex color codes and put them in the place of the pink in the name, and it will make those colors show up as your font. Good luck and have fun. [see3meeses] 2003-04-19 14:59:04
I Live With The Sphinx im not sure i get it. is your mom stressed or just mean. have you tried talking to her. that always (or mostly) helps. you should tell her how YOU feel and not just agree with her becuse then she wont know how you feel. tell me how it goes and please talk to her. besides she is your mother. you cant hate her forever but i understand how you feel. but itll pass. keep in touch hun [truthful1] 2003-04-19 12:34:13
11:56 PM and It's All Good
Pain is a gift by god,
pain tells us to do something abt it. [fOrEsT]
2003-04-19 03:48:36
I Live With The Sphinx I think everyone gets that way with one or both of their parents sometimes. I know I do! It'll pass though. :) [GreenMeanie] 2003-04-18 16:38:42
Oh No She Didn't!!!!!! Don't let her words get you down. You're perfect the way you are. Heck, I eat all kinds of supper foods for breakfast. Pizza, left over chicken... You name it! LOL. Don't feel bad though. [GreenMeanie] 2003-04-18 11:02:49
Oh No She Didn't!!!!!! So sorry to hear that. I think you did the right thing in taking a little walk. My dad used to say things that made me feel like he wouldn't love me if I put on a couple of extra pounds so I talked to him about it, and he doesn't say such things anymore. It is really tough though when parents do things like that. Hope you feel better. [BuffyFan] 2003-04-18 10:53:37
Oh No She Didn't!!!!!! You mom should never have made such a hurtful comment. Does your mom know what she says to you hurts you? Maybe you could try to talk to her about it and let her know that it is her support that you need. I too struggle with my body image and I have come to the realisation that i'll never be 100% happy with myself. You should look in the mirror and smile knowing that you are a good person, no matter what you look like. :) [secretsiren] 2003-04-18 01:16:49
*>>--------->POEM #4 >>---------->* I like that poem. :) The best thing about your poems is that I can understand them. We used to read poems in my English class and by the end, I was so confused. LOL. [GreenMeanie] 2003-04-15 11:46:19
*>>--------->POEM #4 >>---------->* I am a graduate student- I have an office that I share with three other people. It is really small. Hope your week goes well. [BuffyFan] 2003-04-15 11:12:48
*>>--------->POEM #4 >>---------->* You put (B span style="color:pink;") but with < > in place of the ( ). you can look on the web to find the hex coding to make the different colors :) have fun PS that was a good poem [see3meeses] 2003-04-15 03:41:15
>>--------> *POEM # 3* <----------<< Thank you so much. :) The poems are good... I just get upset sometimes about him not being around. I'll have to add you to my favorites list. I keep losing you! *Giggles* [GreenMeanie] 2003-04-14 14:36:35
>>--------> *POEM # 3* <----------<< Hey girl. Sorry to hear about your father. I am lucky- I have a great father. He was married before and had three kids, but we are all very close. I guess you just have to make the first effort sometimes. Hope it all works out for you. [BuffyFan] 2003-04-14 10:37:54
>>--------> *POEM # 3* <----------<< I'll pray for him too :) [See3Meeses] 2003-04-14 02:14:57
It was SOOOOO FUNNY!!!!!! Hey. Don't let that Keith guy bother you or talk you into buying something you don't want. It's not your responsibility to make sure he's happy- it is his job to sell memberships, not yours. Hope your week is going well. [BuffyFan] 2003-04-10 08:43:46
Going to the Party was Easy Hey. Just wanted to say, thanks for your comment again. I had an episode last week where I hurt my mom's feelings too. (see entry 89). And the worst part was that I had sent her flowers last weekend for Mothering Sunday (England Mother's Day) telling her what a wonderful mom she is, then I hurt her feelings. Gad, I felt awful. But moms are so forgiving and understanding. Anyway, have a good week. [BuffyFan] 2003-04-06 21:29:10
Going to the Party was Easy Hey. Thanks for your comment. Sorry to hear that you feel bad. Maybe just apologize to your mom. Hope your week goes well. [BuffyFan] 2003-04-01 10:40:57
~* POEM #1 *~ I give you credit to sticking up for your beliefs, so many people are not in agreement on this war. I don't like the fact of WAR necessarily, but in some ways I do feel its necessary to stop that madman and the weapons he has in his possession. But war is not the way to fix those problems. [Lady Kylara] 2003-03-23 13:29:03
War Sucks!!!! I , myself , don't support wars . [00 loner 00] 2003-03-21 23:14:49
War Sucks!!!! We would be attacking Iraq right now with or without the september 11th terroist attacks . We were allready withdrawing from a number of middle east treaties at the time , we were building up our military offensive capabilities along strategic points , etc etc. This war was being planned before 9-11 rolled around ; 9-11 just helped things move along quicker , and smoother . The only reason we hadn't attacked sooner was because we needed a reason for the American public to support a war (for oil). Go figure. If we really gave a shit about global security , our ONLY major target would have been North Korea , and even that is questionable . [00 Loner 00] 2003-03-21 02:35:20
Back 2 Square 1 Hey. Thanks for your comment. I got visited by Mormons two nights ago! They were both cute. :) Why is that? Anyway, sorry to hear about the car accident, but it is good that they are okay. [BuffyFan] 2003-03-13 18:28:21
World War 3 Sorry to hear about your sis getting suspended. How long is it for? And what is tagging? The picture of the cows just sounds funny. :) I hope things get better for you. [BuffyFan] 2003-02-05 22:20:03
Please Don't Let Me Hurt Them!!! Parents are really odd creatures sometimes. It is usually best to not try and understand them. :) [BuffyFan] 2003-01-30 19:49:44
My Boyfriend's On His Way Back! dont worry about gossipers.. they stink. good luck with the guys.. follow your heart and itl lead you to the right place. I dont think i know any Black foo fans either.. well except for you now.. maybe you should lead a black revolt against nasty rap music, and produce some mighty fine rockers!?! lots of love Sarah x [hoovesofhell] 2003-01-30 10:41:29
When It Rains It Pours Hey. thanks for your comment. Sorry to hear about Robert. I didn't know they were thinking about drafting people. I hope the art supplies work out for you. [BuffyFan] 2003-01-29 17:39:43
It Was A Bad Day, But Nothing Sleep Can't Fix Sorry you had a bad day. I hope you get the rest of your art supplies soon. And it is good that you aren't getting back together with that guy. Hope you have a nice, relaxing weekend! [BuffyFan] 2003-01-25 11:48:27
It Was A Bad Day, But Nothing Sleep Can't Fix Sorry you had such an awful day! I can see why you weren't so sympathetic to your mom's bad day. After all, a lot of your bad day was due to the fact that your parents didn't get you the supplies you needed for that class!!! And you were kind enough to give them an entire week's notice. Hope the weekend is better for you. :) [Formia] 2003-01-25 00:24:55
Just Another Lazy Day in CA patronising parents.. now that sounds famillier! my Dad wont let me take a flight by myself